Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause heartache, and other troubles. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith education, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet wives dating.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I think generally though it is only the human condition, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your spouse or anyone else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to think about. Your funds are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the guy is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our general interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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